Almost everyone will be involved in an unhappy relationship at one time or another. This is the nature of romantic relationships, and there are any number of causes of a couple’s discontent. Even in an unhappy situation, it can be tough to muster the courage to leave. You might feel that you are obligated to stay for your loved ones, or for a host of other reasons, eventhough you are not even sure if your relationship is worth saving. Even if you’re married, you must be thinking that it’s impossible to save your marriage from failing when the both of you are unhappy. Because of these pressures, you might find yourself making excuses to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

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If you are unhappy in your relationship, and wondering how to fix your troubled relationship, there are three ways that you can deal with it.

1) The most common way is to be complacent and maintain the status quo. But, if you do this, you’ll just prolong your own misery and that of those around you. Doing nothing just leads you into more trouble and deeper despair. So, why do people refrain from taking action? Because it’s easy. Remaining complacent requires no action on your part, and the prospect of turning an unhappy relationship around is daunting and requires real work. While it may seem like a noble thing to do, staying in a bad relationship is a bad decision.

2) On the other hand, you might try to stay in the relationship and see if it can be mended. But this means that you must commit yourself fully to the process. Failing to make a wholehearted commitment is just as bad as remaining complacent. Your partner must also be willing to do the hard work of healing the relationship. If you are both dedicated to this process, you can bring about permanent change to your situation. If either of the partners can’t commit to this, then any attempt to fix the broken relationship will inevitably fail.

3) Finally, the third option is to end the relationship. You might think this is easy, especially if you have a lot of pent up anger and resentment. But you might be surprised to know that it’s a very difficult step to take when it comes right down to it. Apart from your own emotional response, your partner might beg or plead with excuses about why you should stay.

In the long run, it might be best to avoid the fights, the unhappiness, depression, and other problems that result when a relationship moves deeper into an unhealthy situation. If the relationship isn’t salvageable, it’s best to end things before the situation gets even worse and causes immeasurable pain for you and your loved ones.

To help you through the process of dealing with an unhappy relationship, you may want to seek the services of a therapist or coach. A trained therapist can help you work through your emotional struggles surrounding your relationship. If you want to save your relationship, a coach can provide you with a neutral assessment of your situation and strategies for helping you deal with it. A trained coach can steer you toward successfully rebuilding your relationship.

There are really only three approaches to an unhappy relationship. You can stay and suffer, make the necessary changes to be happy again, or end the relationship and move forward. Therapists and coaches can provide you with the support you need to take the chosen path, and family and friends are also an important emotional support network during this difficult time. Whatever your path, you must put forth the effort to do the right thing for yourself and the ones you love.

I know that I said eventhough both of you have to work  in order to make it work, it does not mean it won’t work if you are the only one trying. T Dub proved this method in his Magic of Making Up ebook. If you are in an unhappy relationship that has lost its sparks and even if it seems that you’re the only one trying, you might want to check out the methods outlined by T Dub in his Magic of Making Up ebook.

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