While getting your lover back is possible, it is no easy business. One wrong move and the chances that you guys could get back together would be very slim. Most breakup couples want to get back together with their ex right after the break up. Most arguments usually lead to couples saying things that they regret, which most of the time they didn’t even mean to say the things they said.

"I need space."

If you feel like the whole world is crashing down on you, then the best thing you should do at the moment is to grant your partner’s wish. Sometimes in order to win an ex back, a time apart from each other is good for some couples. Maybe you don’t even agree to the idea, but sometimes you just need to cool down and let your partner breathe. It’s difficult but necessary if you want your relationship to work.

In order for it to work, you must avoid the urge to call, text or email your ex. Give him or her the space needed and remember that getting him or her back is possible. You have to have a proven plan of action and this is the first one. So get yourself some self control and if space is what your partner needed, then that’s what you should give him or her.

People sometimes require room to breathe. Every relationship needs that. Even those in a happy and healthy relationship need some time apart. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and that is so true in every way. You need to acknowledge that men and women aren’t the same. What men want is different from what women want in relationships.

What you should do now is respect your ex’s decision when he or she said that he or she needed space, regardless whether you agree to that or not. It’s pretty nasty when sometimes people use this as an excuse to break up because they are just not ready to commit to the relationship. But maybe your partner really needs the space to reflect on things and prioritize certain things in his or her life. Whatever the reason maybe, be a darling and respect that decision. Don’t you see how mature you seem to your partner’s eyes if you do that?

Imagine if you strongly disagree. She’s gonna get angry and leave you anyway. But worst your partner might jump into a new relationship just to get you off his or her back. People would do anything just to get other people to agree and that is just not healthy for the both of you.

You might think that by you giving your ex the space, you might lose him or her forever. That is far from the truth. Along the way, your ex would miss you and realise that his or her life with you is what he or she wants. Your partner would realise that you are the one for him or her. This loss your ex feels now wouldn’t have happened if you didn’t give your ex the space he or she needed before. That’s just how it is. You don’t know what you got till it’s gone.

So the time apart doesn’t seem such a bad idea now does it?

One probable scenario - they will take you for ganted. If it were that easy to get you back into their lives, Who wouldn’t? Another possible scenario- they will be angry at you for not wanting to give them space that they avoid you altogether, and even worse, get into a new relationship with just about anyone just so that you will leave them alone.

If you really want your ex to miss you and in the process regret having want to breakup with you, then maybe you should give them a chance to feel what it’s like without you in their life. Yes, that means no calling, texting or accidental meetings. Not a word from you. Then you’ll just see how much they’d enjoy living their life without you.

And finally the time has come for you to concentrate on you. Yes, that means wearing your best smile and getting on with your own life. Keep active, meet your buddies, get involved in charity work, whatever rocks your boat. Before you realise it, word will get to your ex on how well you’re doing, and how great you look and how you’ve moved on with your life. Hey who knows, maybe your ex will even get a chance to see it for themselves if you guys really happen to cross paths. If you do happen to meet somewhere, remember to smile and just be your friendly self. Exchange a few words and be off with whatever you’re doing. Once your ex hears or even sees these things about you, they will more definitely start thinking of all your best qualities - which works well in your favour.

Now the ball is in their court. If your ex valued your relationship, your ex will now be curious about you and will start to think about you - what you’re doing, how you’re getting on, how you’re feeling. Yet at that same moment, your ex will come to realise that now that you guys are no longer a couple, your ex doesn’t really have a right to know those things about you.

And the best thing is that they will soon realise that you have actually gotten on with your life. You are no longer living in their shadow, forever waiting for them to come back. You have your own life and you’re doing great. And then it hits them, they may have actually lost you, and worse, they may lose you forever.

Once this realisation hits them, they will suddenly understand that they have maybe thrown away the best thing that has ever happened to them. And at about this time, you can expect a call. Keep in mind - stay friendly, keep on smiling, but more importantly, do give your ex space.