Toxic Relationships

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Sometimes a relationship can be toxic. How can you tell if you’re in a toxic relationship? What is toxic relationship definition? Answer these questions truthfully to know some of the toxic relationship signs.

-    Does your partner talk badly about you or put you down in front of other people?

-    Does your partner say they love you, but act otherwise?

-    Does your partner read your email or appear at places just to check up on you?

-    Does your partner make you dependent on them till you feel like you cannot live without their constant help?

-    Have you made any changes to your dressing, your mannerisms, your actions and thoughts just to please your partner?

-    Has your partner emotionally or physically harmed you in any way?

There are certain stages in a toxic relationship. It’s a cycle which never ends. First there is the honeymoon stage, then the blow, and followed by the reconciliation. It starts all over again and goes on endlessly until one partner decides to change things.

The first time you go out with your partner, you are in the honeymoon stage where all is well and good. When the blow comes, typically, you will be too far into the relationship to realise that the relationship is toxic. At that time, you will find it more difficult to pull yourself out. Then comes the reconciliation, where your partner promises that things will change. For a little while things do go back to being the honeymoon stage, but before you know it, the cycle starts all over again.

How can you get out of a toxic relationship? First, know that you do have choices and you can change things around. Next, realise that you need to stand up for yourself. In many cases, you may have been conditioned to think that it is entirely your fault. Be firm and realise that it is not your fault. You have a right to be in a healthy relationship.

The good news is that you can get out of a harmful toxic relationship. To end a toxic relationship, some people find counselling beneficial. Others find therapy groups are the answer to repair their relationship. What you need to realise is that to change things, both partners need to make an attempt at saving their relationship.

When push comes to shove, you must remember that you must be able to walk away from the relationship if things don’t work out. If you cannot walk away, you cannot heal. And once you have made the decision that you can walk away, you can begin to assert your needs in that relationship.

The vital thing to remember is that a happy healthy relationship comes when both partners are committed and willing to make it work. Your happiness lies in your hands.

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