It’s difficult getting an ex back if they were the one who called things off. But how about when you were the one who broke off the relationship? This is the situation that a friend (we’ll call her Susan) was in – here’s how she went about getting an ex back.

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Susan’s friend Lisa called her and told her that she’d heard that Susan’s boyfriend John had been sleeping with someone else. Susan flew into a rage and without trying to corroborate the story, confronted her boyfriend. John was dumbfounded. He had no idea this rumor was going around and even though he’d done nothing wrong, was too shocked to do a good job of defending himself – Susan dumped him on the spot!

However, Susan found out not long after that Lisa had made the whole thing up! Susan had a problem now. She wanted a chance at getting an ex back, but she hated to admit she’d been fooled so easily.

She called John and told him what had gone on. He really wasn’t in a mood to listen; he was hurt that Susan didn’t trust him and he ended up hanging up on her.

Getting an ex back took a lot of effort on Susan’s part.

The first thing she did was to write John a long, apologetic second chance letter in which she accepted full responsibility for her actions and promised to always trust him in the future. She wrote about the long time that she and John had been together and shared a lot of things which she couldn’t see throwing away over a misunderstanding. She told him that she couldn’t imagine a life without him and couldn’t even face the idea of seeing him with another woman.

She sent the letter and decided to just give him some space and let him think things over. She didn’t bombard him with texts, calls or emails. She made the (very wise) call that getting an ex back in this kind of situation was going to take some patience. One way to do this is by giving him some space.

Susan ran into John not long after and she went out of her way to be pleasant and mention their time together casually. What she didn’t do was to apologize or talk about the breakup at all. She’d already said her piece in the letter and in person and that was that.

A few weeks later, Susan got tickets for a concert that she knew John would be interested in. She asked him to go as a friend. This left the door open for further contact, even the possibility of a reunion without pressuring him.

Getting an ex back after dumping them can be tough. You’ll have to apologize and you’ll also have to basically start over again in the relationship. It will be difficult to reestablish trust with your ex, but give them time if you’re serious about getting an ex back.

Eventually, John gave in and took Susan back. He knew that Susan had acted the way she did because she loved him deeply and had gotten jealous. They talked about it and decided that they could learn from this mistake and build a stronger relationship – and they’re still together today!

Susan took the right approach to getting an ex back.

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