I’ve come across a lot of girls asking me “how do I get my ex boyfriend back?” That question never gets old. Most of them can’t quite fathom the idea that their men left them for another woman. Most of them have no clue why that happened. “I didn’t see it coming! If only I did.”

No matter how many times I talked, blogged or wrote about this, they always seem to do the same thing over and over again. Sometimes I feel like I hate the inventions of cell phones because straight away after the break up, they cannot control the urge to call their boyfriends. I’m gonna go against my teaching a little bit. Usually I would tell you not to call your boyfriend after the break up. Let things cool off first. But seeing that most of you disregard the idea anyway, here’s my suggestion on how to get your ex boyfriend back if you still cannot control the urge to contact him.

Call them and suggest meeting them for coffee. If he’s not answering, text him. If he’s not replying to your text, then you see my point why you should not contact him immediately after the break up. In this case, go back to what I always preach, ’stay out of contact’. If he answers you, good for you. He might say no immediately, but considering that both of you used to have a history together, he would agree to meet. Chances are 50-50 here. If he doesn’t want to meet you no matter what you do - again, ’stay out of contact’. If he agrees, well and good. Explain to him that you respect his decision but you would like to have closure and mind you that this is non-threatening in any way.

When the day comes, you have to make sure that you look your best. Do something to your hair. Visit a salon and ask for a makeover. Wear that dress that he loved or one that he bought for you. Wear the perfume that you know he loved. When you guys talk, try to talk about the times (best times) you both had together.

You have to be careful not to sound like you’re trying to win him back though. It’s just to remind him that what you both had before should be cherished. But don’t drag on this topic for too long. Ask him about himself. Don’t ask about the girl he’s currently seeing. Let him do the talking. Be focussed of your objective. If he talks about his current girlfriend, just act natural. Don’t be jealous eventhough you’re boiling inside. Probably he’s just testing you. Keep the meeting casual.

If you are cool and casual, you’ll be ok. The purpose of this is to show him that you’re ok just by being his friend. If you guys hit it off, tell him that you’re planning for a group outing with some friends and he could come along with his new girlfriend if he wants. This shows that you’re ok with his newfound love. What’s good, it also shows that you’re not afraid to be alone. This can be a dinner at your house or a trip to the water park. Keep it fun.

By doing this, he’s going to start to see that you’re doing fine and this is when he will see a different side of you. Heck, he might even be mad that you don’t seem to be sad over the break up at all. Whatever you do, don’t spiral into a depression after he breaks things off with you. Men like happy women, you can trust me on that. They like to have fun. This shows him that you’re not putting your life on hold. He should realise that he’s not the only guy in this world for you. Show him that you take charge of your own life. The last thing your ex boyfriend wants to see is you being desperate. This is true. Look back at the time when the two of you were together. Your ex boyfriend seemed happy when you both were having a good time right?

You see, it’s not easy starting a new relationship with somebody else. It’s easy to be with someone who you’re used to. No matter if you are a girl or a guy, we always want something that we can’t get. Go ahead, show your ex that he had his chance with you and he blew it. Show him that you are your own woman and he will eventually chase after you before you even know it. And that’s how to get your ex boyfriend back.

I should put a little disclaimer here. The above advise fits only if he agrees to meet up with you after your phone call. There’s a reason why I always suggest that you should remain out of contact with your ex first, because it’s a slim chance that he would want to see you immediately after the break up. But if you still wanna do it, follow the above and I bid you good luck.

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